This past weekend, Teri and I decided to head North to Scappoose to check out an Bed & Breakfast Inn that we are considering as a possible location for our ceremony in 2011. We invited two of our daughters, the twenty year-olds Lucy and Leah to go along with us. We have had the trip planned for several weeks and, alas, I came down with a killer cold a day before we left and, yes, it definitely affected my ability to play and relate throughout the weekend!
So much came out of the weekend: a chance for the girls to get to know each other better, opportunities to see different parts of the state including Seaside, Scappoose, Tillamook, etc., and continued explorations for Teri and I in how we relate to each other. Debriefing after the three-day whirlwind, we realized that while we are both in our mid-forties and we have both been moms, partners, etc. for a long time, we are not "old and seasoned" in our relationship. That is still quite new and evolving. We are still learning how to communicate, deal with various situations, and we are still unveiling various sides of ourselves as we get to know each other. We are definitely NOT a seasoned couple who can finish each other's sentences, read each other's minds and anticipate what might be going on. To be honest, I don't know if either of us wants to get to that place. What we do know is that we are committed to the process and we reminded ourselves this past weekend that we do need to be gentle with that process.
We are still learning; it is NOT always a blooming bed of roses--sometimes there is rain, compost and other little pesky realities that go into growing a healthy rose bush. We might be "old" ladies but we are a "young" couple/partnership and we are definitely continuing in the explorations of getting to know each other. Fortunately, life is cooperating just fine in giving us plenty of opportunities to continue exploring...
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